Relationships
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Relationships with partners, friends and family shape how we feel.
What it can feel like
- Arguing in circles
- Feeling unheard
- Pulling away or holding on tight
Why it might be happening
Old patterns, stress and different expectations can strain even close relationships.
Things you can try now
- 1Pick a calm time to talk
- 2Say how you feel, not what they did
- 3Take a pause when things heat up
How therapy can help
A psychologist can help you understand what is going on, make sense of it in the context of your life, and try approaches with good evidence behind them. These Abantu psychologists work with this:
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For family and friends
Listen without rushing to fix it. Ask what would help, and let them know you are there.
Supporting a family member
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If you need help now
Abantu isn't an emergency service. If you or someone else is in danger, call 999. For urgent mental health support, call NHS 111 and choose the mental health option, or call Samaritans free on 116 123.
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