Identity and belonging
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Questions about who you are and where you fit can feel unsettling.
What it can feel like
- Feeling between two worlds
- Not quite at home anywhere
- Changing yourself to fit in
Why it might be happening
Growing up across cultures, moving countries or being one of few people like you can all shape how you feel about belonging.
Things you can try now
- 1Notice where you feel most yourself
- 2Talk with others who share your experience
- 3Be curious rather than critical
How therapy can help
A psychologist can help you understand what is going on, make sense of it in the context of your life, and try approaches with good evidence behind them. These Abantu psychologists work with this:
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For family and friends
Listen without rushing to fix it. Ask what would help, and let them know you are there.
Supporting a family memberRelated listening
If you need help now
Abantu isn't an emergency service. If you or someone else is in danger, call 999. For urgent mental health support, call NHS 111 and choose the mental health option, or call Samaritans free on 116 123.
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