Family expectations
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In a sentence
Love and duty can sit alongside pressure, and both can be true.
What it can feel like
- Guilt when you say no
- Feeling responsible for everyone
- Worry about letting people down
Why it might be happening
Families carry hopes, sacrifices and traditions. These can be a strength and a weight at the same time.
Things you can try now
- 1Notice which expectations are yours
- 2Try one small, kind boundary
- 3Talk to someone outside the situation
How therapy can help
A psychologist can help you understand what is going on, make sense of it in the context of your life, and try approaches with good evidence behind them. These Abantu psychologists work with this:
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For family and friends
Listen without rushing to fix it. Ask what would help, and let them know you are there.
Supporting a family memberRelated listening
If you need help now
Abantu isn't an emergency service. If you or someone else is in danger, call 999. For urgent mental health support, call NHS 111 and choose the mental health option, or call Samaritans free on 116 123.
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