Anger
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Anger is a normal human emotion. It often tells us that something feels unfair, threatening or hurtful.
What it can feel like
- A tight chest, heat or a racing heart
- Snapping at people you care about
- Holding anger in until it spills over
- Feeling guilty or ashamed afterwards
Why it might be happening
Anger can build when we feel unheard, under pressure or hurt, or when past experiences make certain situations feel threatening. It becomes a problem when it starts to harm you, your relationships or the people around you.
Things you can try now
- 1Notice the early signs in your body
- 2Step away and give yourself time before responding
- 3Slow your breathing for a minute or two
- 4Talk it through later, when things feel calmer
How therapy can help
A psychologist can help you understand what is going on, make sense of it in the context of your life, and try approaches with good evidence behind them. These Abantu psychologists work with this:
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For family and friends
Listen without rushing to fix it. Ask what would help, and let them know you are there.
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If you need help now
Abantu isn't an emergency service. If you or someone else is in danger, call 999. For urgent mental health support, call NHS 111 and choose the mental health option, or call Samaritans free on 116 123.
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