Relationship breakups
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The end of a relationship can hurt deeply, whether or not you chose it.
What it can feel like
- Missing the person and the life you shared
- Going over what happened again and again
- Low confidence or self-blame
- Feeling lonely, even with people around
Why it might be happening
A breakup is a real loss. It can also stir up older feelings about rejection or being left. The pain usually softens with time and support, though it rarely moves in a straight line.
Things you can try now
- 1Allow yourself to feel it rather than rushing on
- 2Limit checking their social media if it keeps you stuck
- 3Reconnect with people and activities that are yours
- 4Look after sleep, food and movement
How therapy can help
A psychologist can help you understand what is going on, make sense of it in the context of your life, and try approaches with good evidence behind them. These Abantu psychologists work with this:
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For family and friends
Listen without rushing to fix it. Ask what would help, and let them know you are there.
Supporting a family member
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If you need help now
Abantu isn't an emergency service. If you or someone else is in danger, call 999. For urgent mental health support, call NHS 111 and choose the mental health option, or call Samaritans free on 116 123.
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