Divorce and separation
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Divorce or separation can bring grief, relief, worry and many other feelings, sometimes all at once.
What it can feel like
- Sadness or anger about what has ended
- Worry about money, home or children
- Feeling unsure who you are now
- Mixed feelings that change from day to day
Why it might be happening
The end of a marriage or long partnership changes daily life, family relationships and plans for the future. Everyone's experience is different, and there is no set timetable for adjusting.
Things you can try now
- 1Take practical decisions one at a time
- 2Lean on friends and family you trust
- 3Keep routines steady, especially for children
- 4Seek legal or financial advice from reputable sources
How therapy can help
A psychologist can help you understand what is going on, make sense of it in the context of your life, and try approaches with good evidence behind them. These Abantu psychologists work with this:
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For family and friends
Listen without rushing to fix it. Ask what would help, and let them know you are there.
Supporting a family member
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If you need help now
Abantu isn't an emergency service. If you or someone else is in danger, call 999. For urgent mental health support, call NHS 111 and choose the mental health option, or call Samaritans free on 116 123.
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